Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’

Choose

March 1, 2010

I don’t know what’s it’s name? destiny, mistake or something else. It can be said a lot of nouns. On the other hand it can be called an accident. Everything is possible in our lives.

Yesterday my friend said that she is in love with a person who their visions of life aren’t identical. I mean, the perspective of opinions are important in life such as attitude to life, religion, God and politics!

She said her beliefs are important, but she loves that boy. I think that  it should be a complex situation.

Dispute over the beliefs that have been valuable to you in your life or given priority to your lover that also so important in continue of your love and may be your future perspective?  although I think it is very difficult to live with someone who does not like your ideas or at least does not think like you. I think this conflict is so important after marriage. Because you live with someone under one roof. thus for improving your relationship and love it is so important that you have peace and calmness. Permanent conflict over ideas is very tedious and may reduce the understanding in life.
I said to my friend it is a good time to concern about her opinions to choose a right decision.

Forget…

February 2, 2010

– If he has been able to forget me, so I can.

+ you see? you still loves him.

– how you said this?

+ cause you still wanna do the same things that he has been done.

(A dialuge in a Persian movie: Nights On by Farzad Mo’tamen)

Flick

November 10, 2009

I told her: you fall into loneliness again, because of constantly availability. You ready for them whenever they call you.
She replied to me: you are alone always, because you stay away from being available. All of them, think they can not reach you.

In face to face discussion with her I didn’t surrender. But in the privacy of myself, I accept what she said. In fact, she ran a good flick into me.

Doubled loneliness

November 1, 2009

When a person loves someone, is more alone. Cause he can’t tell anybody about his feelings except loved. And if the person, who he loves, invites him to silence, his has the end of loneliness.

From Abbas Maroufi- Symphony of Dead Book

There was no Flower in pot

October 31, 2009

250 years BC in ancient China a Prince decided to get married. He consult with his Wise staff  and decided to invite all  of young girls in his zone to choose deserve one .

When the old palace servant, heard the story become very sad because her daughter was secretly in love with Prince. Her daughter told mom: she will join to Prince party. Mother said: You haven’t any chance to be elected, you are not rich and not very nice.

Daughter answered: I know he never chose me, but at least it is an opportunity for me to see him closely.

Promised day came and the  Prince told girls: I give to each of you a seed, a girl who brings me the most beautiful flowers within 6 months, is the future queen of China.

The old woman’s daughter also obtained a seed and inseminate it into a pot.

Three months passed and No flower was grown. The girl talked with many gardeners and learned many Floriculture methods, but no one of them was effective. No flower was grown…
Meeting day came,  The girl attended with her empty pot. And other girls had very beautiful flowers of different colors and forms in their pots.

Promised moment came.The Prince reviewed each pots carefully and Finally announced that servant’s daughter will be his future wife.

All protested that the Prince has chosen someone who haven’t any flower in her pot! Prince explained: This girl is only one that breeding a flower which deserves her to become emperor’s wife: Honesty …

All seeds that you gave were infertile, there was no possibility that they become flowers.

From Paulo Coelho book

Reaction

October 14, 2009

Reaction was simple. In fact, I had expected something similar, But the problem is that I do not know how deep is? I’m afraid about thinking of it’s depth . This case had occurred many times before this . I do not understand myself. The problem is that I should not have this much of sensitivity. This is something that is not related to me or my business. But I wish I could control my feelings. I am tired Of non-being in-control. I decide Frequently to not think about it, anymore. Become successful in sometimes, but every time an event, reaction, or something, that leads me to it. I wish I could clear some parts of my memories . For example, I wish I could command to my brain to clear memories of  Date 1 to Date 2.

I wish I was able to do. At least I can living Comfortable for a while and I did not think about sad things. So who is going to, I’ll get mad:(

Is disappointed

October 9, 2009

It Happened…

October 8, 2009
I was skeptical. I was looking for a way to become completely disappointed or another Opportunity to continue, and I must say, unfortunately or fortunately it happened.
Yes, that is true … The event that I was afraid it, finally occurred.

Human relationships

December 30, 2007

I think the most complicated thing in the world is human’s relationships. I believe that every person is a world.

I fount a good article about understating human relationships:

One of the most important relationship lessons I learned was this:  The relationships we have with other people are projections of the relationships we have within ourselves.  Our external relationships and our internal relationships are in fact the same relationships.  They only seem different because we look at them through different lenses.

Let’s consider why this is true.  Where do all your relationships exist?  They exist in your thoughts.  Your relationship with another person is whatever you imagine it to be.  Whether you love someone or hate someone, you’re right.  Now the other person may have a completely different relationship to you, but understand that your representation of what someone else thinks of you is also part of your thoughts.  So your relationship with someone includes what you think of that person and what you believe s/he thinks of you.  You can complicate it further by imagining what the other person thinks you think of him/her, but ultimately those internal representations are all you have.

Even if your relationships exist in some objective reality independent of your thoughts, you never have access to the objective viewpoint.  You’re always viewing your relationships through the lens of your own consciousness.  The closest you can get to being objective is to imagine being objective, but that is in no way the same thing as true objectivity.  That’s because the act of observation requires a conscious observer, which is subjective by its very nature.

At first it might seem troublesome that you can never hope to gain a truly accurate, 100% objective understanding of your relationships.  You can never escape the subjective lens of your own consciousness.  That would be like trying to find the color blue with a red lens permanently taped over your eyes.  That doesn’t stop people from trying, but such attempts are in vain.  If you fall into the trap of trying to think of your relationships as objective entities that are external to you, you’ll be using an inescapably inaccurate model of reality.  Consequently, the likely outcome is that you’ll frustrate yourself to no end when it comes to human relationships.  You’ll make relating to other people a lot harder than it needs to be.  Intuitively you may know something is off in your approach to relationships, but you’ll remain stuck until you realize that every relationship you have with another person is really a relationship that exists entirely within yourself.

Fortunately, once you embrace the subjective nature of relationships, you’ll have a much easier time relating to people.  It’s easier to get where you want to go when you have an accurate map.  The subjective view of relationships implies that you can change or improve your relationships with others by working on the internal relationships within yourself.  Furthermore, you can improve your internal relationships, such as your self-esteem, by working on your relationships with others.  Ultimately it’s all the same thing.

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