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March 1, 2010

I don’t know what’s it’s name? destiny, mistake or something else. It can be said a lot of nouns. On the other hand it can be called an accident. Everything is possible in our lives.

Yesterday my friend said that she is in love with a person who their visions of life aren’t identical. I mean, the perspective of opinions are important in life such as attitude to life, religion, God and politics!

She said her beliefs are important, but she loves that boy. I think that  it should be a complex situation.

Dispute over the beliefs that have been valuable to you in your life or given priority to your lover that also so important in continue of your love and may be your future perspective?  although I think it is very difficult to live with someone who does not like your ideas or at least does not think like you. I think this conflict is so important after marriage. Because you live with someone under one roof. thus for improving your relationship and love it is so important that you have peace and calmness. Permanent conflict over ideas is very tedious and may reduce the understanding in life.
I said to my friend it is a good time to concern about her opinions to choose a right decision.


Scent of a Woman

November 21, 2009

I’m not a judge or jury. But I can tell you this: he won’t sell anybody out to buy his future!! And that, my friends, is called integrity! That’s called courage! Now that’s the stuff leaders should be made of. Now I have come to the crossroads in my life. I always knew what the right path was. Without exception, I knew. But I never took it. You know why? It was too damn hard:

Lt. Col. Frank Slade Addresses Baird School Disciplinary Hearing


November 9, 2009

For respect to some people we need more  knowledge and some of them less …

Today when I checked my Persian weblog counter, I saw an entry  from another weblog’s comments page. that blog belong to a Persian celebrity blogger who I left a comment for one of his posts. My comment was very honestly and respectful. Because The celebrity blogger “was” giant for himself and others in Persian blog world!

Later in charge of activity in social networks, I knew him more, and I understood that he is not committed to the ethics. He had some relationships with a married woman. In addition he has many negative points. For example, many lies and hypocrisy.

However,he is not important for me or my life. This man had no effect on my life and either me on his life. I don’t have any communication with him, but he  is not a  giant anymore and also I haven’t my former behavior with him.

Now I see how other bloggers and readers have so many respect to him, And I’ll sorry. cause morally he is a dead  man for me.

I wrote this post just wanna to say that respect is a concept which made by ourselves.  With our own actions and ethics, we  encourage others to respect us or disrespect.

Maryam Eslami, from Iran

June 14, 2008
The World Intellectual Property Organization (WIPO) presented two awards at the Geneva International Exhibition of Inventions on April 4, 2008, as part of the Organization’s commitment to promoting recognition of inventors worldwide. The award winners were:    
  • Mrs. Maryam Eslami, from Iran, who won the WIPO Award for best invention by a woman for a medical instrument to be used in bone surgery and the treatment of various bone-related ailments.
  • Mr. Wan Tarmeze, from Malaysia, who won the WIPO Award for best invention by a national from a developing country for engineered wood made from the waste biomass of oil palm plantations, so relieving the burden on natural forests as a source of timber.  Mr. Tarmeze’s invention – POPS™ Lumber – was among the many notable innovations at this year’s exhibition which were inspired by environmental and climate change challenges. 
The winners were selected by an international jury of experts designated by the organizers of the Exhibition. This is the twenty-seventh year in which WIPO has presented awards at the Geneva event, which provides an opportunity for inventors and researchers from all over the world to showcase their inventions and to attract business partners for joint ventures or licensing agreements.
WIPO awards highlight the key role of innovation in driving progress and in improving quality of life by paying tribute to inventors and acknowledging their work.  WIPO works with its member states, to ensure that the international patent system rewards inventors for their successful inventions, and for their ingenuity, effort and investment.
The WIPO awards program, and similar schemes that celebrate the achievements of inventors, help to foster a culture in which innovation is encouraged, not only in research laboratories, but in the work place, in class-rooms and in the home. 
Since the launch of the WIPO awards program in 1979, over 1,000 medals have been awarded to inventors, including young inventors, from more than 100 countries. 

Intelligent people ‘less likely to believe in God’

June 14, 2008

People with higher IQs are less likely to believe in God, according to a new study.

Professor Richard Lynn, emeritus professor of psychology at Ulster University, said many more members of the “intellectual elite” considered themselves atheists than the national average.

A decline in religious observance over the last century was directly linked to a rise in average intelligence, he claimed.

But the conclusions – in a paper for the academic journal Intelligence – have been branded “simplistic” by critics.

Professor Lynn, who has provoked controversy in the past with research linking intelligence to race and sex, said university academics were less likely to believe in God than almost anyone else.

A survey of Royal Society fellows found that only 3.3 per cent believed in God – at a time when 68.5 per cent of the general UK population described themselves as believers.

A separate poll in the 90s found only seven per cent of members of the American National Academy of Sciences believed in God.

Professor Lynn said most primary school children believed in God, but as they entered adolescence – and their intelligence increased – many started to have doubts.

He told Times Higher Education magazine: “Why should fewer academics believe in God than the general population? I believe it is simply a matter of the IQ. Academics have higher IQs than the general population. Several Gallup poll studies of the general population have shown that those with higher IQs tend not to believe in God.”

He said religious belief had declined across 137 developed nations in the 20th century at the same time as people became more intelligent.

But Professor Gordon Lynch, director of the Centre for Religion and Contemporary Society at Birkbeck College, London, said it failed to take account of a complex range of social, economic and historical factors.

“Linking religious belief and intelligence in this way could reflect a dangerous trend, developing a simplistic characterisation of religion as primitive, which – while we are trying to deal with very complex issues of religious and cultural pluralism – is perhaps not the most helpful response,” he said.

Dr Alistair McFadyen, senior lecturer in Christian theology at Leeds University, said the conclusion had “a slight tinge of Western cultural imperialism as well as an anti-religious sentiment”.

Dr David Hardman, principal lecturer in learning development at London Metropolitan University, said: “It is very difficult to conduct true experiments that would explicate a causal relationship between IQ and religious belief. Nonetheless, there is evidence from other domains that higher levels of intelligence are associated with a greater ability – or perhaps willingness – to question and overturn strongly felt institutions.”

Have your say: Is faith linked to intelligence?????????????????

Avoiding high calorie office food

April 21, 2008

Tired of meetings and office get togethers where the only food on offer is cake, Danish, pizza, biscuits and other high fat snacks?

There’s no need to feel unsociable or avoid these gatherings while you are trying to lose weight, if you plan ahead. Keeping nutritious snacks at the office can help you achieve your weight loss goals while everyone around you is letting their guard down.

Here are ideas about what to keep handy:

Water Bottle:

Most offices these days have water coolers where you can get yourself a glass of cool refreshing water whenever you want. The problem is, that sometimes you get so busy that you can go hours without filling your empty glass.

Drinking water is far too important to your overall health and weight loss aspirations to leave to chance and having a decent sized bottle of water at your desk all the time will help insure you’re getting enough.
The other great benefit of using a large bottle instead of glasses or cups of water is that you can easily track how much you’ve consumed during your day. Having plenty of water within your reach at all times will keep you well hydrated and help you avoid the office munchies by keeping your stomach nice and full.


Each couple of days, bring a bag of fresh fruit to the office and store it at your desk. Try to be adventurous; don’t just stick with the common fare of apples and mandarins. Berries, grapes, mangos and kiwi fruit will keep for several days, more if you have access to an office refrigerator, and provide variety to whet your appetite for something other than chocolate biscuits.

If you have a blender, take it to work with you and create a wonderful smoothie or fruit cocktail made with banana, pear, apple, pineapple, strawberries, orange juice and ice. Store it in the office fridge and it will stay good for a whole day or more.

Nutritious Snack or Protein bars:

You can also use these as meal replacements, but be careful to read the labels. Many “nutritional bars” are nothing more than candy bars in deceptive packaging. Stay well away from those with high levels of sugar and fat.


Bring a couple of small ziplocked bags of sliced carrot, celery sticks or your favorite veggies.

Low-fat cottage cheese/low sugar yogurt:

Small containers of these on hand will provide nutritional meal options.


A bag of low-sodium ricecakes tucked away can satisfy a need to eat something crunchy. Just stay away from the ones loaded with flavored sugar coating.


Apparently, this is an age old competitive bodybuilding trick. During pre-contest dieting, some bodybuilders attempt to deflect the temptation to eat blacklisted foods within reach by brushing their teeth. As you can imagine, the last thing they would want to do after brushing with minty toothpaste or gargling with mouthwash would be to eat a piece of chocolate or lollies. Not bad for keeping your breath fresh, too.


Make sure you have a serving or two of utensils at your desk, along with something to cut your food if needed.


If you don’t have a fridge or cooking facilities at work, take an insulated lunch-bag or thermal to work. The lunch-bag will keep your fruit, sandwiches and other nutritional snacks safe and fresh until your ready to eat and a thermal is perfect for taking healthy vegetable soups to work for that perfect winter snack.
The first step to staying on track with your eating program, particularly at work, is planning ahead. You don’t have the power to control what your co-workers bring into the office, but you can help ward off temptation by stocking up on a few items of your own.
Remember, the point is to not make your own desk resemble a supermarket aisle, but to have enough options on hand in order to substitute for the really bad stuff should the need arise.

p.s: The Source

Is There Anything Good About Men?

April 13, 2008

You’re probably thinking that a talk called “Is there anything good about men” will be a short talk! Recent writings have not had much good to say about men. Titles like “Men Are Not Cost Effective” speak for themselves. Maureen Dowd’s book was called “Are Men Necessary?” and although she never gave an explicit answer, anyone reading the book knows her answer was no. Brizendine’s book “The Female Brain” introduces itself by saying, “Men, get ready to experience brain envy.” Imagine a book advertising itself by saying that women will soon be envying the superior male brain!

Nor are these isolated examples. Eagly’s research has compiled mountains of data on the stereotypes people have about men and women, which the researchers summarized as “The WAW effect.” WAW  stands for “Women Are Wonderful.” Both men and women hold much more favorable views of women than of men. Almost everybody likes women better than men. I certainly do.

 My purpose in this talk is not to try to balance this out by praising men, though along the way I will have various positive things to say about both genders. The question of whether there’s anything good about men is only my point of departure. The tentative title of the book I’m writing is “How culture exploits men,” but even that for me is the lead-in to grand questions about how culture shapes action. In that context, what’s good about men means what men are good for, from the perspective of the system.

Hence this is not about the “battle of the sexes,” and in fact I think one unfortunate legacy of feminism has been the idea that men and women are basically enemies. I shall suggest, instead, that most often men and women have been partners, supporting each other rather than exploiting or manipulating each other.

Nor is this about trying to argue that men should be regarded as victims. I detest the whole idea of competing to be victims. And I’m certainly not denying that culture has exploited women. But rather than seeing culture as patriarchy, which is to say a conspiracy by men to exploit women, I think it’s more accurate to understand culture (e.g., a country, a religion) as an abstract system that competes against rival systems — and that uses both men and women, often in different ways, to advance its cause.

Also I think it’s best to avoid value judgments as much as possible. They have made discussion of gender politics very difficult and sensitive, thereby warping the play of ideas. I have no conclusions to present about what’s good or bad or how the world should change. In fact my own theory is built around tradeoffs, so that whenever there is something good it is tied to something else that is bad, and they balance out.

I don’t want to be on anybody’s side. Gender warriors please go home.

Continue Reading Nice Article…

Do People Only Use 10 Percent Of Their Brains?

March 10, 2008

The human brain is complex. Along with performing millions of mundane acts, it composes concertos, issues manifestos and comes up with elegant solutions to equations. It’s the wellspring of all human feelings, behaviors, experiences as well as the repository of memory and self-awareness. So it’s no surprise that the brain remains a mystery unto itself.

Adding to that mystery is the contention that humans “only” employ 10 percent of their brain. If only regular folk could tap that other 90 percent, they too could become savants who remember π to the twenty-thousandth decimal place or perhaps even have telekinetic powers.

Though an alluring idea, the “10 percent myth” is so wrong it is almost laughable, says neurologist Barry Gordon at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine in Baltimore. Although there’s no definitive culprit to pin the blame on for starting this legend, the notion has been linked to the American psychologist and author William James, who argued in The Energies of Men that “We are making use of only a small part of our possible mental and physical resources.” It’s also been associated with to Albert Einstein, who supposedly used it to explain his cosmic towering intellect.

The myth’s durability, Gordon says, stems from people’s conceptions about their own brains: they see their own shortcomings as evidence of the existence of untapped gray matter. This is a false assumption. What is correct, however, is that at certain moments in anyone’s life, such as when we are simply at rest and thinking, we may be using only 10 percent of our brains.

“It turns out though, that we use virtually every part of the brain, and that [most of] the brain is active almost all the time,” Gordon adds. “Let’s put it this way: the brain represents three percent of the body’s weight and uses 20 percent of the body’s energy.”

The average human brain weighs about three pounds and comprises the hefty cerebrum, which is the largest portion and performs all higher cognitive functions; the cerebellum, responsible for motor functions, such as the coordination of movement and balance; and the brain stem, dedicated to involuntary functions like breathing. The majority of the energy consumed by the brain powers the rapid firing of millions of neurons communicating with each other. Scientists think it is such neuronal firing and connecting that gives rise to all of the brain’s higher functions. The rest of its energy is used for controlling other activities—both unconscious activities, such as heart rate, and conscious ones, such as driving a car.

Although it’s true that at any given moment all of the brain’s regions are not concurrently firing, brain researchers using imaging technology have shown that, like the body’s muscles, most are continually active over a 24-hour period. “Evidence would show over a day you use 100 percent of the brain,” says John Henley, a neurologist at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn. Even in sleep, areas such as the frontal cortex, which controls things like higher level thinking and self-awareness, or the somatosensory areas, which help people sense their surroundings, are active, Henley explains.

Take the simple act of pouring coffee in the morning: In walking toward the coffeepot, reaching for it, pouring the brew into the mug, even leaving extra room for cream, the occipital and parietal lobes, motor sensory and sensory motor cortices, basal ganglia, cerebellum and frontal lobes all activate. A lightning storm of neuronal activity occurs almost across the entire brain in the time span of a few seconds.

“This isn’t to say that if the brain were damaged that you wouldn’t be able to perform daily duties,” Henley continues. “There are people who have injured their brains or had parts of it removed who still live fairly normal lives, but that is because the brain has a way of compensating and making sure that what’s left takes over the activity.”

p.s: Do People Only Use 10 Percent Of Their Brains? Part 2

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Discover the 90/10 Secret

January 29, 2008

It Will Change Your Life!
The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.

The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.

Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. Their is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel.

Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change your life! What is this secret?

10 of life is made up of what happens to you.

90 of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10 of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10 .

The other 90 is different. You determine the other 90 ! How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you, YOU can control how you react!

Let’s use an example.

You’re eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize them for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.

Back downstairs you find your daughter has been to busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.

Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.. After a 15 minute delay and throwing 60 away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.

Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is d. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say “It’s OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.

You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are having.

Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10 of what happens. The other 90 is determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.

If someone says something negative about you, do not be sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Use your “worrying” energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

p.s: An Inspirational Thought, Motivational Thought – 90/10 Secret

An Iranian Succeed Girl

January 22, 2008

I’m so glad to heard about an Iranian succeed girl.  Dr Gelareh Zadeh is the youngest female brain surgeon in Britain. she born in Shiraz. you can find more about her by reading the continue of this post:

Have brain surgery and be home for tea

Dr Gelareh Zadeh

Patients with brain tumours are to be offered fast-track day surgery for the first time.

The procedure, during which the patient remains awake, is being pioneered by Britain’s youngest female brain surgeon working with a team based at University College Hospital. Dr Gelareh Zadeh, 35, is a specialist in malignant brain tumours and one of the few female brain surgeons in the world.

Her first patient was 52-year-old businesswoman Deborah Calder, who had the operation in July and has since made a full recovery. Dr Zadeh told the Evening Standard today that there has already been interest from other London hospitals in the work of the Brain Metastatic Clinic and the technique is to be adopted by the NHS.

Until now, patients have had to stay in hospital for up to a week after brain tumour surgery to allow them to recover fully from the after-effects of a general anaesthetic. But with day surgery, doctors can use a local anaesthetic which they inject into the patient’s scalp to “freeze” it before making an incision in their skull.

Dr Zadeh said: “The fact the patient can be awake makes them feel a lot better after surgery and it makes it a lot easier for doctors to operate.

“It is also good for cancer patients who cannot tolerate a general anaesthetic. Before, people would have to stay in for at least two days and sometimes up to a week. Deborah chatted to us all during the operation and after observingher and doing a scan we were happy to let her home to her family.”

Mrs Calder, who had cancer in her lungs before it spread to her brain, married her partner of 20 years, 72-year-old Johnny, a few days after having the operation. She said: “When I first found out my cancer had spread to the brain I was really shocked and upset, especially as they couldn’t say what my chances were.

“But they got me into surgery really quickly and Gelareh was almost like a friend to me. She is so caring, a really exceptional and special person. I trusted her totally and the whole team made me feel very safe.”

“It was a bit strange at first when they started putting pins into my head but I knew that if anything went wrong then they would give me a general anaesthetic. By the evening I was at home with my family having a cup of tea. There is no doubt this saved my life. It has given me a whole new lease of life.”

More than half of all adult brain tumours are caused by cancer in other parts of the body spreading.

The aim of the Brain Metastatic Clinic is to identify patients with secondary brain tumours so their treatment can be managed effectively. Day brain surgery is already a standard procedure in other countries.

People in our lives

January 21, 2008

Many times of these days I think about this subject: Why God puts some people in our lives? Sometimes their life spans (in our life) are short, but they have the long-lived and great effect in our life. Of course I talk about the negative/bad impacts.

We know the God loves human beings. He said in Qur’an*: the human beings are the Excellency of creatures. So, why he puts some people in our lives, they deposit many negative impacts in our lives and made us annoyed for a long time?! Is it a paradox in God’s kindness?!

I think NO. Let me talk about some of God’s interests.One of the major interests of God is: the people always connecting him, and talk him about their requests and wishes.  He doesn’t like one of his created beings forget him and relies on others.

Let us to honest with ourselves. When you remember the God and asked him your desires? If you judging fairly, the answers are like: when I’m sad or when I was in bad situation or when I missed a valuable thing or person (maybe he/she has been died or to left you alone…)

I believe that when we forget the God, the bad event occurs, because he doesn’t like the creatures forget him and he wants to remember this fact to us, because he loves us. I think this is the first goal of God to putting us in bad conditions. Also I think the bad events are examinations of our patience. How much we have tolerances in bad situations and how we encountering them? Are we ungratefulness or ingratitude toward God?

And the second aim? I think the second goal of God is: improvement and expanding our experiments about our personality and relationships. Am I right? I think acquainted with everybody – and in general, every relation – will be welfare our knowledge base about mankind and their spiritual matters.

You know when somebody injury you (either material or spiritual), s/he also teach you a lesson. If you are clever, the next times you act prudently and don’t allow anybody to harm you in the same way.

I think life is full of these types of lessons and experiences. And you should apply them in similar circumstances to be succeed. When we are sad, we can’t decide logically and we can’t distinguish which is better for us. For example in these bad situations you can ask yourself: the bad situation in this time is better or bad consequences of this transient happiness that made a terrible life for me in future? And then you can make a trade off between the answers.

Remember, with all of awful events, your life is flowing till now…Are you remembering sometimes in past you decided to killing yourself because of critical pressures? But you are still alive and can breathe the life…Therefore, I think, we should thanks God for all of our belongings and non belongings. 

* Qur’an: Qur’an is the Moslems holy book (like gospel of matter for Christians)   

Two Kinds of Judgement

January 15, 2008

I hate to be exposed to a judgement! specially when I know that the criterions aren’t fairly and I have to accept the results!  I read the article bellow but I’m not satisfied yet! because the author forgot to write that is important that selector must be fair! s/he must consider all circumstances and also must be impartial.

There are two different ways people judge you. Sometimes judging you correctly is the end goal. But there’s a second much more common type of judgement where it isn’t. We tend to regard all judgements of us as the first type. We’d probably be happier if we realized which are and which aren’t.The first type of judgement, the type where judging you is the end goal, include court cases, grades in classes, and most competitions. Such judgements can of course be mistaken, but because the goal is to judge you correctly, there’s usually some kind of appeals process. If you feel you’ve been misjudged, you can protest that you’ve been treated unfairly.Nearly all the judgements made on children are of this type, so we get into the habit early in life of thinking that all judgements are.

But in fact there is a second much larger class of judgements where judging you is only a means to something else. These include college admissions, hiring and investment decisions, and of course the judgements made in dating. This kind of judgement is not really about you.

Put yourself in the position of someone selecting players for a national team. Suppose for the sake of simplicity that this is a game with no positions, and that you have to select 20 players. There will be a few stars who clearly should make the team, and many players who clearly shouldn’t. The only place your judgement makes a difference is in the borderline cases. Suppose you screw up and underestimate the 20th best player, causing him not to make the team, and his place to be taken by the 21st best. You’ve still picked a good team. If the players have the usual distribution of ability, the 21st best player will be only slightly worse than the 20th best. Probably the difference between them will be less than the measurement error.

The 20th best player may feel he has been misjudged. But your goal here wasn’t to provide a service estimating people’s ability. It was to pick a team, and if the difference between the 20th and 21st best players is less than the measurement error, you’ve still done that optimally.

It’s a false analogy even to use the word unfair to describe this kind of misjudgement. It’s not aimed at producing a correct estimate of any given individual, but at selecting a reasonably optimal set.

One thing that leads us astray here is that the selector seems to be in a position of power. That makes him seem like a judge. If you regard someone judging you as a customer instead of a judge, the expectation of fairness goes away. The author of a good novel wouldn’t complain that readers were unfair for preferring a potboiler with a racy cover. Stupid, perhaps, but not unfair.

Our early training and our self-centeredness combine to make us believe that every judgement of us is about us. In fact most aren’t. This is a rare case where being less self-centered will make people more confident. Once you realize how little most people judging you care about judging you accurately—once you realize that because of the normal distribution of most applicant pools, it matters least to judge accurately in precisely the cases where judgement has the most effect—you won’t take rejection so personally.

And curiously enough, taking rejection less personally may help you to get rejected less often. If you think someone judging you will work hard to judge you correctly, you can afford to be passive. But the more you realize that most judgements are greatly influenced by random, extraneous factors—that most people judging you are more like a fickle novel buyer than a wise and perceptive magistrate—the more you realize you can do things to influence the outcome.

One good place to apply this principle is in college applications. Most high school students applying to college do it with the usual child’s mix of inferiority and self-centeredness: inferiority in that they assume that admissions committees must be all-seeing; self-centeredness in that they assume admissions committees care enough about them to dig down into their application and figure out whether they’re good or not. These combine to make applicants passive in applying and hurt when they’re rejected. If college applicants realized how quick and impersonal most selection processes are, they’d make more effort to sell themselves, and take the outcome less personally.

p.s:  Kinds of Judgement

Christians Anger & Forgiveness

January 5, 2008

Anger is a normal sentiment we feel when something unjust has happened to us, or when someone has let us down or hurt us (whether deliberately or not). We can see many places in the Bible where God becomes angry. This anger usually comes as a reaction to injustice and sin. The problem with anger is not anger itself, but anger that remains unresolved, and that leads to bitterness and unforgiveness.

If we are very hurt and very angry, our anger can overcome us. Bitterness can take on a power all of its own. Bitterness towards the person who has hurt us or let us down leads to hate. This is quite the opposite of love – love being the experience that as Christians we should always aspire to know within us. We need to know God’s love for us. We also need to have a love for other people, and we can give this out of the inspirational love that God provides in our lives.

read more about the danger of anger

If we have any natural fault, it is hiding our own anger from ourselves.  Here is a checklist to help you determine if you are hiding your anger from yourself.  Any of these is usually a sign of hidden unexpressed anger.

One in three think Everest is in Europe

January 1, 2008

Today I read an article in guardian and I can’t believe what I read! The most sentences in article made me surprised!! Here are some optional paragraphs:

One in three think Everest is in Europe as survey reveals poor geographical knowledge:


The most visited local “landmark” for many British adults is their nearby DIY store, according to a survey published today, which suggests we are a nation of reluctant explorers, with little sense of adventure and a poor understanding of geography. A third of those who took part in the survey thought Mount Everest is in Europe, while only half were aware that the Nile is the world’s longest river.

The research warns that most people are failing to make the most of their local area and have little knowledge of important geographical facts.

The survey was carried out to mark National Geographic’s geography awareness week and also today’s so-called “GIS Day”, which aims to encourage young people to understand the extent to which geographic information – and increasingly the opportunity to use technology such as digital mapping – underpins our daily lives.

The UK is among more than 80 countries which will participate by holding local events such as workshops and school assemblies.

Asked how many countries there were in the world, only a third were correct in choosing 193. A third of people thought Mount Everest was either in the Alps or the UK – it is in Nepal – and only half of respondents knew that the Nile was the world’s longest river.

Asked which facility had been visited the most during the past month, the DIY superstore came top with 39%. The local museum was bottom with only 9%. Almost a third said they had never visited their local museum or church and a quarter had never been to their leisure centre.

Respondents were also asked about what they remembered most about geography lessons at school from a list of eight topics. Maps came top with 24%, rocks/erosion and “don’t know” were in joint second place with 16%, and farming in last with 5%.

The findings follow a separate survey carried out earlier this week by the British Council, which showed that UK children aged 11 to 16 have the lowest international awareness among their age group in 10 countries.

Human relationships

December 30, 2007

I think the most complicated thing in the world is human’s relationships. I believe that every person is a world.

I fount a good article about understating human relationships:

One of the most important relationship lessons I learned was this:  The relationships we have with other people are projections of the relationships we have within ourselves.  Our external relationships and our internal relationships are in fact the same relationships.  They only seem different because we look at them through different lenses.

Let’s consider why this is true.  Where do all your relationships exist?  They exist in your thoughts.  Your relationship with another person is whatever you imagine it to be.  Whether you love someone or hate someone, you’re right.  Now the other person may have a completely different relationship to you, but understand that your representation of what someone else thinks of you is also part of your thoughts.  So your relationship with someone includes what you think of that person and what you believe s/he thinks of you.  You can complicate it further by imagining what the other person thinks you think of him/her, but ultimately those internal representations are all you have.

Even if your relationships exist in some objective reality independent of your thoughts, you never have access to the objective viewpoint.  You’re always viewing your relationships through the lens of your own consciousness.  The closest you can get to being objective is to imagine being objective, but that is in no way the same thing as true objectivity.  That’s because the act of observation requires a conscious observer, which is subjective by its very nature.

At first it might seem troublesome that you can never hope to gain a truly accurate, 100% objective understanding of your relationships.  You can never escape the subjective lens of your own consciousness.  That would be like trying to find the color blue with a red lens permanently taped over your eyes.  That doesn’t stop people from trying, but such attempts are in vain.  If you fall into the trap of trying to think of your relationships as objective entities that are external to you, you’ll be using an inescapably inaccurate model of reality.  Consequently, the likely outcome is that you’ll frustrate yourself to no end when it comes to human relationships.  You’ll make relating to other people a lot harder than it needs to be.  Intuitively you may know something is off in your approach to relationships, but you’ll remain stuck until you realize that every relationship you have with another person is really a relationship that exists entirely within yourself.

Fortunately, once you embrace the subjective nature of relationships, you’ll have a much easier time relating to people.  It’s easier to get where you want to go when you have an accurate map.  The subjective view of relationships implies that you can change or improve your relationships with others by working on the internal relationships within yourself.  Furthermore, you can improve your internal relationships, such as your self-esteem, by working on your relationships with others.  Ultimately it’s all the same thing.

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People Touch Our Lives

December 23, 2007

** I read the Gtarman’s “people in our lives” post series and try to write my own in the next posts. At first I have searched the google and found a pretty text:

((People important to you, people unimportant to you, cross your life, touch it with love and carelessness, and move on. There are people that leave you, and you breathe a sigh of relief, and you wonder why you ever came in contact with them. There are people who leave, and you breathe a sigh of remorse, and wonder why they had to go and leave such a gaping hole.

Children leave parents, friends leave friends, acquaintances move on. You think on the many who have moved into your life with hazy memory. You look on those present and wonder.

I believe in God’s master plan for our lives.

People move in and out of each other’s lives, and each leaves his mark on the other. You find you are made up of bits and pieces of all who have touched your life, and you are more because of it, and you would be less if they had not touched you.

Pray to God that you can accept the bits and pieces in humility and wonder, and never question, and never regret.))

** Also I found this ask and answer group in yahoo. someone asked:
Why do people come in our lives when ultimately they have to leave us?
we meet many people get attached to them but finally why does it happen that we have to separate why do we meet such good people when finqally we have to forget them sometimes meetings destined.

This question had some answers but the best answer was:

Can you tell me why the rain comes after summer season and not before? This is because summer means the hard word and the best effort to keep us going and being patience and bear the hot sun on the top of our head, so that we can understand the importance of rain in our life.
Remember: God empties your hand only to give you the best.

I offer you to read all of replies. some of them contains good points.

** P.S: The Most Influential People in our Lives

Blood Injection

December 23, 2007

I found this nice story in a Persian weblog called: A Grey Mind, the name of story is Blood Injection:

«Many years ago I worked in a hospital voluntarily. That time a girl had a strange illness. The only chance for her living was transition of the blood from one of her families to her. She had only a brother, and he had 5 years old. Physician talked to her brother. little boy asked: If I do it, is my sister remain alive? doctor said: Yeah, and little boy accepted it.

We confined him to bed beside her sister’s bed, and then connected the injection pipes to his body. the little boy looked at her sister and smiled. while the blood going out from his body asked doctor: Am I’ll go to the Heaven?!

The little boy thought that they must conduct all of his blood out of his body 🙂 »

Yalda night

December 22, 2007

happy yalda night, I’m in travelling. I would like to write more about this night but I have no time. please read the following links to familiar with this night:

here is some pictures

description of yalda’s night

yalda in wikipedia

Longest night of year

just two days remain to end of world

December 18, 2007

I read bellow text in Persian and loved it, and then tyied to translated it: 

She found that she hadn’t any life and there isn’t any more life for her, all of her calendar days was full and just 2 days, 2 days remain empty.

She went near the god afflicted and angrily, perhaps to take more days from god.  she shouted and cursed, god was quiet. she screamed and brawled, god was quiet. she bothered for angles and other human beings, god was quiet. she ingratitude and hurled her prayer carpet, god was quiet. she offended and cried. god broke his silence and told her: My dear, another day passed too, and entirely you did brawl and cuss! you lose today too. just one day remains. come to have better life this one day at minimum.

Among the tears she said: with one day?! what I can do with one day?! god said: everybody who perceived the enjoy of being alive in one day in her life, to suppose that she could live thousands years, and whom don’t perceive today, aren’t useful the thousands years for her. and then god puts the quota of one day’s life in her hands, and said: go to life.

She looked to the shine of life in her hands amazingly. but to be afraid to move, to be afraid to start, she feared that life to shed among her fingers… she stopped a little, and told herself: when I have no tomorrow, what is the advantage of holding this one day?!  let me to consume this fist of life. then she started running… sprinkled the life in her face, drank the life, smelled the life, and became such happy that she could go to the end of world. she could fly. she didn’t construct any skyscraper, she didn’t occupant the ground, and didn’t take a rank. but she touched skin of a tree, slept on grass, watched a ladybug, saw the clouds, and said “hello” to all people, and prayed to all individuals that didn’t like her. she made peace, laugh, and became restful. she enjoyed, donated and loved. she just lived in one day and angles wrote this day in god’s calendar.

Today she has been died. someone that live thousands years… 

Secret of Success

December 15, 2007

Sir, What is the secret of your success?”

“Two words”

“And, Sir, what are they?”

“Right decisions.”

“And how do you make right decisions?”

“One word.”

“And, What is that?”


“And how do you get Experience?”

“Two words”

“And, Sir, what are they?”

“Wrong decisions.”